Preparation for the upcoming wedding is an exciting moment and sometimes could be even a bit stressful. A bit? - you may ask me...Oh, well, maybe not at all, let's just say preparation could be extremely stressful, as all potential guests need to be informed, the venue should be ready and picked wisely, the DJ must be selected, the whole ceremony, the meals and entertainment programed should planned perfectly and the list may go on and on and on.
Among all numerous things there will always be a question of a quality preparation of the first dance! And to help future newlyweds to sort out their FIRST DANCE, I decided to write a post and discuss the most important "headaches" related to the preparation of the wedding dance. Let's begin.
What would be absolutely the best song to use?
It is the general practice to choose the song for your wedding dance because it is a song you both love and feel the lyrics are suitable to yourselves as well as a wedding or because the song has some sentimental value for you. Although it's possible to create a wedding dance to almost any song, some though should be put into the music.
Most styles of dance can be simplified for beginners to learn quickly and we can create a dance to nearly any genre of music including traditional and classic songs, rock and roll, Latin, disco, pop, ballad’s, R’n’B, swing and even heavy metal. But regardless of the style of music, there are a few simple guidelines that if followed, can help you choose your song. If your heart is not set on any one song, bring a couple of choices to your first dance lesson and in a few seconds we can demonstrate which is easiest or most suitable for dancing.
Be aware of the slow music myth. Contrary to popular opinion, very slow music is NOT easy for dancing as it takes more dance skills to express slow music nicely and to make it look interesting. Very fast music may be difficult for the bride to dance in her wedding gown. Fast music requires faster footwork and if you are not nimble on your feet it will take more lessons and more practice to dance comfortably at the fast pace. Choose your music for the mood of the dance, if you want a fun or spirited dance choose lively or fun music, if you want a romantic and intimate dance choose a definite love song.
If you want to have a medley of two or three songs, especially if you’ve chosen them to ‘tell your story’, be prepared to learn a few steps of two or three different dances to suit each song.
And last but not least, the most important thing of all is that you can clearly hear the beat of the music you choose, the beat that you tap your foot to as you listen to the song. To dance ‘in time’ with the music you will need to match your footsteps to that beat and that can be very hard for a beginners with music that does not have a distinctive and easily heard beat. If you really don’t know what song to choose, play it safe and stick to the classics that are proven easy dancing and use your favorites for other parts of the wedding.
How soon should you start learning your wedding dance?
The number of lessons and the period of time needed to learn let's say a basic Bridal Waltz will vary greatly from person to person considering everyone learns at their own pace and everyone has their own perception of what is and what is not ‘basic’ and what is or is not a ‘Waltz’. In terms of learning a dance for a wedding the term Bridal Waltz tends to be used rather loosely, referring to the occasion of the first dance as a newlywed couple at their wedding reception rather than the name of the dance style itself. Traditionally the first dance was the actual Waltz but a contemporary Bridal Waltz can be any dance of an individual’s choice.
The Waltz is actually a formally structured ballroom dance composed of a set pattern of steps that can only be danced to music with a 3/4 time signature. If these steps are not done in the recognized prescribed manner and to the correct music then the dance is not a Waltz but something that may look like a Waltz to the uninitiated.
For the purpose of a wedding dance, we use the term Bridal Waltz to refer to the wedding first dance and not to the dance style itself. It is not necessary to learn an exact structured formal Waltz if you want a traditional style bridal dance, there are many different dances and creative interpretations of them that can look like a traditional Waltz but can be much easier to learn and certainly suit modern music better.
Having said that and assuming that your chosen wedding dance song is relatively suitable for beginners dancing, it is reasonable to expect that beginners should be able to learn a basic dance in anything from 3 to 7 lessons, depending on their capabilities and their interpretation of ‘basic’. Some couples can learn a whole simple dance in three lessons, some get halfway towards what they want and for some it’s just a start.
Where it is certainly possible to learn some elementary steps in three lessons it is more often the case for the vast majority that five lessons are needed to achieve a bridal dance that looks natural and relaxed so that you look like a couple and look like you know what you are doing.
There’s nothing worse than coming out of dance lessons with perfectly remembered steps and choreography but dancing mechanically and looking like tin soldiers.
Whether you feel you need 3 lessons or 10 Bridal Waltz lessons it is wisest to start them earlier rather than later. Plan your sessions leaving time to spare before your wedding date so that you avoid a last minute panic or attack of nerves and to give yourself the option of time for extra lessons if you find you need them or find you are better than you thought and want to jazz up the dance a bit more.
The dancing lessons are a lot of fun and you’ll find them one of the nicest things you do together as a couple in lead up to your wedding day.
Have realistic expectations
Quite often today couples come in with pre-determined idea of what they wait to learn and then they show on the iPhone a YouTube video of a couple dancing a spectacular wedding choreography with lots of cool moves and tricks in it. There is nothing wrong with it and with my experience I can easily match such routine or make it even better. However, usually such project would require more then 2-3 lessons to accomplish it. Here, I would recommend students to have realistic expectations and to allow far more hours to establish a sophisticated routine.
My general advise here would be is that if a couple has a limited budget, will It is far far better to dance only a few steps and look great doing them, look like a couple, look smooth and polished, than it is to attempt complex steps and choreography that is beyond your skill level and still look awkward or clumsy even though you are dancing your feet off.
Your wedding dance is not a performance to a critical or paying audience expecting to be entertained, it is a part of your wedding day rituals and celebration that is shared with your guests, your family and closest friends. It is your first dance as husband and wife, it is all about your relationship as a couple, and as such I have always believed that your wedding dance is personal and that you should indeed look like a couple and look like you know what you are doing in as natural and smooth way as possible.
This post is provided by New York Times. Phys Ed By GRETCHEN REYNOLDS MARCH 29, 2017
Original post is located here.
I decided to share this post to all who is wondering about the true benefits of Ballroom & Latin dancing. Please read & enjoy the article originally posted by New York Times.
Photo of Naples, Fl provided by Elena Kavalevich.
Naples, fl is a very special place to live and it certainty has its own vibe and energy.
It's been about 4 months since we moved here with my family and I can certainly say that we have already got our first impression. There are so many great restaurants, white sandy beaches, high end country clubs and luxury boutiques in Naples - all that is a great social outlet for those here on vacation, part-time residents staying here during the season or full-time Naples residents. It does not really matter what category you belong, once you are here, you will surely enjoy living in this wonderful city.
As I am building my clientele at the moment, I noticed that it becomes quite trendy here to hire a dance teacher for a couple or a single person to have a dance lesson in a peaceful atmosphere of their home! And in this article, I would like to share my experience of teaching people indoors and talk about how wonderful such experience could be for couples or singles.
It's obvious that the temperature here during the summer days or even during the fall is quite high and it makes you want to stay inside or just hang out with a Margarita drink by the pool.
Beautiful weather and whole resort type of environment brings lots of relaxation and a habit of "no rush" into your lifestyle. Enjoying themselves in their beautiful homes, sometimes local people feel that they would rather stay indoors and have entertainment brought directly to them instead of going to a dance studio or a country club.
Of course, I am not talking about the majority of people, this is small percentage, but like I said before, this type of service becomes quite trendy! I noticed that some people just want to have a lesson indoors while others just want to make a special date for themselves when they bring a dance teacher to give a quick private lesson inside of their beautiful home.
Luxury of undivided attention
When you teach people in their homes, I must say you feel that you give them a truly private lesson since neither sharing of the floor nor music happening. I am not saying that it is necessarily a bad thing to share music and the floor place while learning to dance in a busy school, all I am trying to say is that teaching indoors sets up a completely different atmosphere during the lesson and people feel that they are truly enjoying themselves being relaxed and feeling more confident about trying learning. And as we know learning how to dance may seems like learning of something that is not always natural or easy at a first try. Private lesson indoors becomes a lesson of truly undivided attention, because there is no destruction and you can see how people are having a good time!
A great addition to a wonderful evening
Private lessons in house is certainly not inexpensive type of entertainment. However, all the benefits which people receive with that - make such activity worth what it may cost them. I had clients who brought me to teach right after they had a special dinner at home. A dance lesson was for them a finale of their amazing evening. I also had clients who were celebrating their anniversary and to accomplish a dream of one of the spouses I was brought to teach Foxtrot. That was a very unique experience for my clients and for me. It was a great pleasure to give people happiness and joy, allowing them to make their dream come true and help them to feel that they finally did something one of them was really dreaming about for a long time.
Quite good progress
I find that people who are inquiring about such service for the first time, have a doubt whether they would learn something or not on the lesson in their home.
This is quite normal fear and based on my experience and I must say that home environment allows to learn.
Of course, I am not talking about the level of progress which student may get when he/she comes to a dance studio. Learning indoors is more like a short-term thing or an addition to a special night but I was able to notice how people was progressing from having no knowledge about a certain dance to a level of a very very beginner.
To conclude my post I must say that it is very fun to learn about the local environment and the clientele, it is very enjoyable to discover interests & preferences of local people. And I am looking forward to learn more!
In response to whose who are thinking about giving yourself such entertainment, I want to say, go ahead, it's worth it and you will enjoy such a memorable experience for many years!
Ballroom Dancing is a great way for people of all ages to get in shape and stay fit.
Dancing has many positive health benefits and is a wonderful activity that will benefit your mind, body, and spirit. Dancing will improve your health and fitness, mental acuity, and social connections. Dancing is a great social activity and studies have shown that socializing and dancing with friends can contribute to high self-esteem, increased self-confidence and a more positive outlook. Dancing reduces stress and tension, so over time one can feel an overall sense of well-being.
For many ballroom dancing becomes a lot more than a hobby or a fun pass time. Dancing turns into a new lifestyle filled with events, friendships, excitement and to top it all off a slew of heath benefits!
Check out all the reasons why ballroom dancing may be just the thing you need to try out for yourself and understand why it could be good for you!
Meeting new people
Dancing is recreational and entertaining. It creates a social life for us, while affording us the opportunity to make new friends. Friends help us grow, make us laugh and support us as we learn.
If you are getting bored and tired of the same people around you, and would like to expand your social circle, ballroom dancing will provide you with plenty of great opportunities; From dancing class to going out to ballroom dancing events, you will be meeting many new people from all walks of life. In fact, ballroom dancing classes and events are a melting pot for people of wide age ranges, racial, cultural and occupational backgrounds. With all the studio practice dance parties, local, regional and national competitions and nights out on the town allow dancers to have a full social calendar.
While dance brings a lot of joy to participators, it can also make them feel very nervous and bring out a lack of self-confidence in both social and performance dance contexts. Every week I see new students who are very anxious about even setting foot into dance studio for the first time. I’ve had students tell me stories of how they waited outside the studio in their car a good half hour before walking in the door to ask about taking classes. Even students who have made it in through the door and taken classes can still get nervous.
One of the best ways to gain self-confidence in dance is to get as much experience as you can. The more times you’ve performed a move or danced for an audience, the easier it becomes. If you’re delving into a dance experience for the first time, visualization can work as an effective tool. Our wedding couples getting ready for their first dance often have never performed before. I encourage them to visualize as much detail of the upcoming dance as they can before its debut. I tell them to visualize the venue, their guests, the lighting, themselves going through each step of the dance, and most importantly I tell them to picture their dance going successfully.
It is important to keep in mind, however, that self confidence and self esteem need not be based on how well you “perform,” but rather on the fact that you’ve overcome an internal block. Self esteem and self confidence based on performance will come and go, depending on how you perceive yourself as performing. Overcoming an obstacle, however, is always with you. There is also a subtle difference between self esteem and self confidence. Self esteem is the regard you hold for yourself… your self concept. Self confidence, on the other hand, is your belief in your ability to perform a task, it is not a judgment. Dancing can increase both… if you let it. Like everything else, you bring to the dance floor who you are and what you believe about yourself.
Learning to dance can help you learn to stop comparisons and dance your own dance. Just as in life in general, it is important to live your own life and not be overly concerned with what others think. True friends and family love you for who you are. Dancing offers the potential to accept your own body and revel in its beauty, its movement and rhythm. Dancing offers another area where you can be your own best friend instead of your worst enemy. Dancing of any kind is fun, joyful and can improve social skills. Dancing keeps you in the present moment and thereby increases self esteem, because being present keeps you grounded and in the flow of life.
Exercise & great health.
Dancing is tremendously beneficial in keeping us young. It retards the aging process immensely. It benefits our heart, cardiovascular system and increases our lung capacity.
Fact: The muscle exertion and breathing rates of dancers performing in one dance competition is equivalent to those of cyclists, swimmers and an Olympic-level 800-meter runner.
Dance exercises our bodies to allow for increased circulation. It helps us burn those calories away, while improving our stamina. It is estimated that dance burns anywhere from 5 to 10 calories per minute depending on speed and intensity. For example, swing and mambo burn more calories than a slow waltz. Check out approximately how many calories you burn while dancing to your own tune:
Dance aids in the prevention and treatment of osteoporosis for men and women. For women during post-menopause, there can be a significant drop in estrogen levels which stops calcium from being absorbed into the bones. Dancing can also help keep joints lubricated in order to prevent arthritis.
Few activities can be as cheerful and exciting as ballroom dancing. Low energy, sadness and lack of spirit have no place on the dance floor. While you will need to practice and concentrate in the beginning, instruction will happen in a fun, lively atmosphere; you will be surrounded by happy, smiling people and awesome music. Once you learn how to dance, it will be wrapped in fun and joy of the magic dance environment.